Sunday, April 1, 2012

Whether to have children or not

I think Morrie Schwartz said it best in "Tuesdays with Morrie".  "Whenever people ask me about having children or not having children, I never tell them what to do."  Morrie said, looking at a photo of his oldest son.  "I simply say, "There is no experience like having children.'  That's all.  There is no substitute for it.  You cannot do it with a friend.  You cannot do it with a lover.  If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being, and to learn how to love and bond in the deepest way, then you should have children."  "Would I do it again?  I would not have missed that experience for anything.  Even though.........He swallowed and put the picture in his lap.  "Even though there is a painful price to pay." he said.  "Because I'll be leaving them soon."  I watched the first teardrop fall down the side of his cheek.

Before I had children, a friend told me "you don't know what love is until you've had a child."  It is true!